I've enjoyed reading your recent articles on feminism. As a stay-at-home-mom I have spent years being looked down on by other women. I was a 'feminist' until I chose raising my children over a career. My husband and I chose to live on less, to make sacrifices for the sake of our children and we get no end of flack for it. If you are a mo…
I've enjoyed reading your recent articles on feminism. As a stay-at-home-mom I have spent years being looked down on by other women. I was a 'feminist' until I chose raising my children over a career. My husband and I chose to live on less, to make sacrifices for the sake of our children and we get no end of flack for it. If you are a mother who isn't working you are useless or a failure, that is what society has been saying to me for years. It is nice to know that someone else has noticed that maybe that's not right or good.
The trouble with feminism is not the "stay at home mom". The trouble with feminism is don't stay-home-marrried-moms, and the single women who think it's reasonable to do it ALL, who DON'T do the mothering tasks, and pass those mothering tasks onto low-level workers, usually poorly paid precarious or desperate workers, who serve as serfs, or end up in government run - re-education/propaganda facilities.
The trouble was not "feminism", the trouble is with women who want to be able to say: "I reproduced", "I am a mother", but just don't want any of the labour, no breast-feeding, no diapers, no bed-time reading, no home-cooked meals, no homework, and more and more, without even the pregnancy, which is also contracted out to third parties.
You see my drift. Mother in name only. Mother as a virtue-signal.
My mom worked before I or my brother were born. Once she had us, she was stay-at-home, and made a beautiful home, of which she was proud, made wonderful meals, kept the home running smoothly-and was proud of her work. Once we kids got older, she resumed working part-time to bring in more money, have some variety, and to be around more adults. I was grateful for not having been a "Latch-key Kid" with two absent parents as such was the case with my cousins who grew up alone and lonely, and without supervision and getting pregnant with scumbags who left them; this was while they were still in school. Both of my cousins' parents wanted to be "successful", but ended up alienating their children and causing them to drift away from them as adults and resent them for having been abandoned.
I praise women who stay home with their kids in order to bond with them and love them. The same goes for the rare house-husband. In Finland, a child doesn't go to school until seven, and the state pays for one parent to stay home and look after them-this is enlightened! Imagine actually having time with your precious children at the beginning of their lives to be with them at home and to not be pushed into school early! They DO grow up too fast.
So, if you are a stay-at-home mom-or were, and you wanted this, good on you!
The Mommy Wars are truly heinous. This goes both ways too. While I changed jobs for more flexibility and fewer hours when my first child was born, I had to work to support the family while my husband's business was still new and ramping up, and I distinctly remember standing in line at a coffee shop on my lunch hour behind two women pushing children in strollers. One mentioned to the other that she's so glad she's not one of these women who chooses work over their kids. She said, "I would never pay anyone to love my kid for me." I wanted to knock their heads together.
I've enjoyed reading your recent articles on feminism. As a stay-at-home-mom I have spent years being looked down on by other women. I was a 'feminist' until I chose raising my children over a career. My husband and I chose to live on less, to make sacrifices for the sake of our children and we get no end of flack for it. If you are a mother who isn't working you are useless or a failure, that is what society has been saying to me for years. It is nice to know that someone else has noticed that maybe that's not right or good.
you are anything but a loser , congratulations for doing the right thing
The trouble with feminism is not the "stay at home mom". The trouble with feminism is don't stay-home-marrried-moms, and the single women who think it's reasonable to do it ALL, who DON'T do the mothering tasks, and pass those mothering tasks onto low-level workers, usually poorly paid precarious or desperate workers, who serve as serfs, or end up in government run - re-education/propaganda facilities.
The trouble was not "feminism", the trouble is with women who want to be able to say: "I reproduced", "I am a mother", but just don't want any of the labour, no breast-feeding, no diapers, no bed-time reading, no home-cooked meals, no homework, and more and more, without even the pregnancy, which is also contracted out to third parties.
You see my drift. Mother in name only. Mother as a virtue-signal.
My mom worked before I or my brother were born. Once she had us, she was stay-at-home, and made a beautiful home, of which she was proud, made wonderful meals, kept the home running smoothly-and was proud of her work. Once we kids got older, she resumed working part-time to bring in more money, have some variety, and to be around more adults. I was grateful for not having been a "Latch-key Kid" with two absent parents as such was the case with my cousins who grew up alone and lonely, and without supervision and getting pregnant with scumbags who left them; this was while they were still in school. Both of my cousins' parents wanted to be "successful", but ended up alienating their children and causing them to drift away from them as adults and resent them for having been abandoned.
I praise women who stay home with their kids in order to bond with them and love them. The same goes for the rare house-husband. In Finland, a child doesn't go to school until seven, and the state pays for one parent to stay home and look after them-this is enlightened! Imagine actually having time with your precious children at the beginning of their lives to be with them at home and to not be pushed into school early! They DO grow up too fast.
So, if you are a stay-at-home mom-or were, and you wanted this, good on you!
Amen. Thank you for that.
The Mommy Wars are truly heinous. This goes both ways too. While I changed jobs for more flexibility and fewer hours when my first child was born, I had to work to support the family while my husband's business was still new and ramping up, and I distinctly remember standing in line at a coffee shop on my lunch hour behind two women pushing children in strollers. One mentioned to the other that she's so glad she's not one of these women who chooses work over their kids. She said, "I would never pay anyone to love my kid for me." I wanted to knock their heads together.